- March 11, 2021
Just Who Do You Think You Are (Well You Need to Know!)
Think about it…. when we get ready to start dating, we gather our courage, we choose an online dating site (or two or three or four) and we set forth on a voyage towards finding “the one”. We might have a vague idea of what we want, but truly most of us do not sit down and really THINK about it. Let’s put things into order and save yourself heartache and time.
First, know what you want and don’t want. Be honest with yourself. Is your family expecting you to marry a person of a certain occupation? What do YOU want? Do some soul searching.
Second, decide what is the end goal of your dating efforts? Casual friends with benefits? Long term love? Marriage and children?
Third, study manifestation of your desires. Some call this the “Law of Attraction” work. I help people do this and I have personally experienced success doing this manifestation work. It is POWERFUL.
Fourth, be flexible. Sometimes we have a “type”. Sometimes we play out patterns both consciously and unconsciously. Knowing what you want is important, but don’t be rigid. Your love might be a totally new experience for you.
Fifth don’t settle. Ever. Don’t spend twenty years with someone for some insane reason.
Sixth, don’t take things very seriously. Have fun! We are on the prowl and we often forget that this should be fun!
Seventh…. if you don’t know who you are and what you want, don’t take any innocent victims along. Hold back on dating. Get into some counseling and wrestle your demons. Focus on your career or a project or something that needs your undivided attention before you invite someone into your world.
I want to hear from you! What dating experiences have you had? Do you know what you want and need?
Erica Sheridan, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor and Dating Coach